The Lovers tarot card is interesting to me. When I started using my deck I didn’t even bother to take a second look at this card. I assumed it was a pair of lovers receiving a blessing from a third party. Simple and easy as cake right? Wrong.
This card came up when I was doing a reading for a friend. I immediately jumped to the conclusion, “oh, I know this one! I don’t even have to consult my booklet; a union is going to occur between two people or things, you will fall in love or something will come together”.
How naive was I to not even consult the picture!?
“Uh yeah, that seems about right…” my friend replied. Seemingly putting her faith in my half-hearted explanation, as she fixed her gaze on the card a bit longer. I took her cue and actually looked at the card. Something was off-I looked closely at the card-then consulted my little booklet.
There were two lovers all right, two lovers and another lover. I was in shock. How could this be? Three lovers in the infamous Lovers tarot card? All of the faith in my assumptions came crashing down. This card is not about Lovers in the literal sense of the word. It does not imply a union between two people or suggest a romantic ending to a situation.
It is about the choice one has to make when it comes to two things. Two things most of us have to choose between every now and then. Choosing between the wisdom and caution of the elders or the need to experience things for oneself.
For example; will you listen to the warnings of others and stay away from a “bad” crowd, or will you proceed and make your own judgement calls, get involved with that crowd and learn how they really are.
If you are looking for a card that is more literal in representation of the lovers, I would suggest you consult the two of cups. Now this image more clearly shows an equal exchange of heartfelt emotion between two individuals-offering each other their cups full of water. Water being representative of emotion.
In the Lovers card, the man has an older lover and a younger lover. He is confronted and must choose between the two. While he is thinking, the ladies are waiting somewhat awkwardly and cupid hovers above the man. As we go through life, we are guided by the advice of wiser people-parents, grandparents and teachers. Whomever it may be, we are told what is safe, dangerous and which paths will result in creating better circumstances for ourselves. This is the older woman in the image. Now the younger lover is representative of inexperience. If he chooses her, he will encounter life on his own accord, they will learn together as peers, and acquire knowledge through trial and error.
It is curious to me as to why this card is named so, the Lovers. Perhaps ones love of life, and desire to choose the path more conducive to their journey. As cupid looms above, we are reminded of the devotion and desire one puts into their own personal development. Whichever path the man chooses, he will be committed to this way until the next fork in the rode arises.
In my opinion, neither one is right or wrong…rather the choice reflects the type of love one has for themselves. If they choose the young lover, they are willing to take risks and experience things through a trial and error way. If they choose the older lover, they will be proceeding with caution and are more likely to take the counsel of others.
When this card appears in a reading it presents us with;
1. A choice we need to make between following the tried and true or taking a risk.
2. A fork in the rode on our path.
3. Whichever path we choose will require a commitment from our end.
4. The time has come for us to make a decision. No more waiting!
In the reverse this card presents us with;
1. An inability to make a choice.
2. A stalemate.
3. A need to go back and look at the Heirophant in order to re-evaluate our inner world.
4. This may be a crucial time to proceed with caution. Wait before making a decision!
It is fitting that in my experience with this card, I assumed the knowledge I had upon a mere glimpse lent itself to an understanding; instead I had to really look at the card in order to understand it. In this case, experiencing the card was far more important than believing my assumptions.